After play is important as foreplay. Though penovaginal sex is regarded as the most intimate and satisfying form of sexual activity, this is not always true. There are many women who report “I am not worried about orgasm but I would very much appreciate a bit of love play after he is through”.

Vatsyayana in the Kamasutra, has given a lot of emphasis to afterplay and he has mentioned that afterplay is equally, if not more, important as foreplay. Most people enjoy being held, cuddled, talked to, and partners need to communicate with each other as to what they prefer. Many-a-time, a woman in her fifties or so would come and report “Doctor, sex is now far more satisfying despite the fact that my husband is unable to achieve erection.”

Perhaps he is forced to learn or devote more time to foreplay and afterplay which takes away the feeling of mechanical sex and at times when he is unable to perform, there is enough warmth and affection in all forms of sexual activity, the foreplay, the interplay and the afterplay.