When an individual has sexual desire he departs from the normal state and enters into the ‘sexual state’ and is deemed to have undergone ‘sexual grounding’. ‘Sexual grounding’ or the ‘Sexual state’ is a state in which the subject becomes receptive to the perception of stimuli inputs as sexual. Once this occurs, psychobiological stimuli arouse the sex center in the brain which starts sending out impulses, which are usually pleasurable. When such impulses reach the genitalia they lead to congestion of blood which is usually manifested as erection in the male and lubrication in the female. Further stimuli further arouse the individual and eventually lead to orgasm.

How can one know that once has reached an orgasm?

An orgasm is like a sneeze - it is difficult to describe but once you have had one you know what it feels like. Orgasms may differ. Usually one experiences a heightened sexual ecstasy accompanied by rhythmic vaginal contractions in females and ejaculation in males, followed by a fooling of relaxation.

It is not necessary that a woman should reach orgasm during intercourse. She may achieve orgasm during foreplay or after play by any method including clitoral stimulation. What is important is satisfaction, no matter how one derives it.

Difference between ‘Clitoral Orgasm’ and ‘Vaginal Orgasm’

No, there is no difference. An orgasm may be more or less satisfying depending upon several Factors, but whatever be the means of stimulation, ultimately “All roads lead to Rome.”

Can the use of a diaphragm inhibits a woman’s orgasm

The diaphragm fits into the deep portion of the vagina where there are hardly any nerve endings. Real stimulation is in the outer aspect i.e. clitoris and the surrounding area and the outer one-third of the vagina. The diaphragm in no way inhibits a woman’s orgasm.

When one reaches orgasm, one usually has gasping uncontrolled movements, or a sense of suspension which are nonverbal communications to the partner that one has had an orgasm. It is usually accompanied by vaginal contractions in female and the visible associate of ejaculation in males. Later, after completion of the sex act, one appears calm and physically satisfied. The signs of having had an orgasm are quite fleeting. The best way is to ask the partner.

Is it normal to reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation?

Absolutely. There are women who are unable to reach climax by vaginal intercourse alone. Climaxing by clitoral stimulation is in no way inferior.

Are different erogenous zones important?

Yes. One need not reach orgasm by genital stimulation alone. One may stimulate any erogenous zone to the point of orgasm.’What is important is the end and not the means to the end’.

When an individual has sexual desire he departs from the normal state and enters into the ‘sexual state’ and is deemed to have undergone ‘sexual grounding’. ‘Sexual grounding’ or the ‘Sexual state’ is a state in which the subject becomes receptive to the perception of stimuli inputs as sexual. Once this occurs, psycho-biological stimuli arouse the sex centre in the brain which starts sending out impulses, which are usually pleasurable. When such impulses reach the genitalia they lead to congestion of blood which is usually manifested as erection in the male and lubrication in the female. Further stimuli further arouse the individual and eventually lead to orgasm.